Self-Advertising, or Self-Disclosure, is a powerful tool for people who stutter. For those unfamiliar with the concept, self-advertising is telling someone you stutter. If you find yourself getting caught up worrying about what others are thinking about your stuttering, think about how talking might be different if the listener only knew you stuttered. This is just how you talk! We've been teaching people who stutter about self-advertising for a long time now, but we often realize it's the basics we need to talk about most.
3 Basic Rules of Self-Advertising Your Stuttering
1. Call it "Stuttering"
Many people, when referring to their stuttering, will call it a speech problem, a speech impediment, a stammer, etc. Help out the listener by letting them know the actual name of the actual problem. They may not understand stuttering fully, but at least you've named it. This helps to avoid confusion about the best way for your listener to refer to it.
2. Don't Apologize!
Sometimes it's a knee-jerk apology, and it can be tough to avoid. Remember though, you didn't choose to stutter. It's not your fault. You don't owe anyone an apology. Tell them you stutter, maybe tell them what that means, and do so as assertively as you can.
3. Keep it Simple!
You want the listener to know you stutter, and you want to experience the benefits of knowing they know... but it's usually not necessary to go beyond the essential information.
Examples of self-advertising
John, a doctor in a hospital, visiting a new patient on his daily rounds:
"Hi Mrs. Doe, I'm Dr. S-S-Ssssssmith. You might notice I stutter. It has nothing to do with your case. It's just how I talk. Now, let's talk about your blood pressure."
Anna, at the grocery store. She doesn't have her rewards card and is prompted by the cashier to provide a phone number:
"Sure, but first I should say I actually stutter, and saying numbers are particularly hard for me. Thanks in advance for your patience."
Patrick, at the beginning of a job interview, is prompted to tell the interviewer about himself:
"Okay. Before I begin I'd like to mention that you might notice I stutter. Basically, that means it takes me a bit longer to get a word out from time to time. As you might have seen in my resume, I finished college in 2008, and..."
Interested in other blog content related to self advertising? Check out Michael's experiences as a teacher who stutters, MaKenna's suggestions for becoming more comfortable talking about stuttering, and Jon Paul's experiences with the subway challenge.The American Institute for Stuttering is a leading non-profit organization whose primary mission is to provide universally affordable, state-of-the-art speech therapy to people of all ages who stutter, guidance to their families, and much-needed clinical training to speech professionals wishing to gain expertise in stuttering. Offices are located in New York, NY and Atlanta, GA, and services are also available Online. Our mission extends to advancing public and scholarly understanding of this often misunderstood disorder.
Carl Herder, M.A., CCC-SLP, BCS-F
Atlanta Clinic Director, Board-Certified Specialist in Fluency Disorders
Carl is our Clinic Director for the Arthur M. Blank Center for Stuttering Therapy in Atlanta, GA. He joined AIS in New York in 2006 and worked closely with our founder, Catherine Montgomery for nearly five years. In 2016, he moved to Atlanta to open our first satellite office.